Jaci Rae Winning Points With The Woman In Your Life One Touchdown at a Time

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Hello everyone. My name is Jaci Rae and this is my true love story. When I first began "serious" dating each one was supposed to be "the one." Or at least that's what everyone told me. ‘He's the one for you.’ ‘When are you two going to get married?’ ‘Has he popped the question yet?’  What many people never saw was the inner turmoil of the relationship and the way the man treated me behind the scenes.

Society sees single people as sad and alone, yet whenever I was in a relationship I was deeply lonely.  However, the underlying current of feeling lonely when I was in a relationship was much less when I was single, only now I had the added value of feeling rejected too.  Why? How could I be lonely when I had "the one" sitting next to me and how, when I was single and alone could I feel less lonely than when I was with “the one?”

Other questions constantly raced through my mind such as: Was I always the wrong person? Why wasn't I ever Mrs. Right?

To give you more insight into me and how I ended up in a string of wash out relationships with men who broke my heart and my bank account many times you need a little understanding about my background.

I grew up poor with the added feeling of being very unwanted. My childhood was not a safe one. My Mom wasn't home much because she had to work to support two children as a single mother without child support so I grew up feeling very rejected and alone. Do you see the pattern?

Food was the only thing I could control in my own life and I became very good at controlling it. Sometimes eating nothing and sometimes gorging. Something I still struggle with today. By the age of eight I started on a journey to discover why did harm come to me? Why I was so ugly, stupid, fat and horrible. I ravenously read every book I could find at the school library during lunch and magazines at home. Once I was older and had a job (age 12) I bought books.  It started me on a journey that hasn't stopped; my love of what makes people tick and how relationships work or don't.

Why was I always the wrong one?

Let's move to more recent events. With all my education and studying I still ending up in the "wrong" relationship. Why? I had changed my pattern, or so I thought. I picked people with different backgrounds, different careers, different education, different socio-economic backgrounds and different looks. What was wrong? I always seemed to pick the man who would treat me the worst. The "good" ones only wanted to only be my friends.

During that time I was sought after by friends, family and people who were referred to me to help them understand themselves and their relationships and to "fix" things. Why was I able to help them and not myself? I knew the basic rule that I must love myself before anyone else would love me, but I knew that I could never love myself. I was too ugly. Too fat. Too stupid and any other horrible adjectives I could throw at myself. So I hid myself even further.

The laws of attraction that most of us have heard, but practically no one adheres too, ruled over me. I only attracted those that would hurt me the most.  I hadn’t changed the way I felt about myself, so how could I expect the men in my life to change the way they treated me?

One day, while I was sitting with my then boyfriend a revelation came over me.  The words I had read about, studied and preached to others hit me full in the face. I deserve better and I am not junk.  This man, who had been a dear friend for years, was my boyfriend now and he was horrible to me!  He was a great friend but sucked at the boyfriend gig.

As I sat in the room with a bunch of NFL people I realized many of these men and women needed to score points with themselves and their “loved” ones and not just put a show on so others thought they did.  That’s when the title, “Winning Points With The Woman In Your Life One Touchdown at a Time – How to Score For Men and Women” came to my mind. 

At first I fought writing this book.  How could I possibly mix football and love? I wasn't even a huge football fan! But once I sat down to do so it came out quickly (I learned a lot about football along the way!).  The next step I took to write the book was to interview men and women on the street to find out what their thoughts were about relationships and what made them crazy in them. A year and a half of research later I started the real journey of self-discovery.  I wasn’t the horrible, awful, ugly person I had always believed deep in my soul I was.  I was a kind person who struggled with her weight, but that didn’t mean I didn’t deserve the best. 

It was also at that point that I realized I was much happier being single than being in a relationship and I started to practice the self-love I always spoke and wrote about.  For the next two years I wrote and I was happy, elated actually.  People would stop me on the street just to say how much I glowed.  It was amazing. 

They say love comes when you least expect it and that's what happened to me.  It was during my time of happy singleness, that I met the man who would turn out to be my soul mate.  We talked for hours and I mean truly talked.  I had never really had such in-depth conversation with anyone!

But I ran scared.  A month later I was in a relationship with a man who was fun but a player.  After a month with him I realized what I was doing and headed as fast as I could in the other direction.  I called up the other man and we went on our first date.  He was kind and sensitive (gorgeous to boot) and he even side stepped me from doggy poop on our hike. 

We spent the entire afternoon and well into the wee hours of the next morning just talking and laughing.  However, when I left him for my car I knew I wasn’t going to date him.  My mom called me the next day and asked me how the date had gone. I told her what a wonderful time I had and how wonderful he was.  I then stated firmly, “…but I am not going to date him.”  She said, ‘oh…how sad.’ 

Something clicked inside me at that moment and I turned around and said, “No way!  I am going to date him.” And that’s just what I did.  In that instance I made a choice (and you can too) to change my dating pattern.  I was going to go for the man I wasn’t attracted too.  The man who didn’t have the element of “danger, ” which is what seemed to be underlying in all the other men I had dated. 

Practicing what I preached

That was nearly two years ago and I am still totally in love as he is with me.  We literally spend almost all of our time together (we work side by side as well) and while we have occasional disagreements, we always apologize. We are a normal couple after all!  He really is the most incredible man I have ever known.

So what changed and how can you change your life so you can attract the one person that will treat you like gold?  I go over that a lot in “Winning Points With The Woman In Your Life One Touchdown at a Time” (which I originally wrote for women to read, not sure a man would want to read it but it turned out that was untrue.  Both men and women read and study it.  Despite the title, this book is for both sexes and is not all about Football.  While I do use football language in the book, it’s not a football book per se.)



CHAPTER 1          Stepping Into the Stadium

CHAPTER 2          Getting onto the Field - Shedding a Little Light on the Complex
                                World of Male - Female Relationships. Why we are the Way we are

CHAPTER 3          Avoiding the Defensive Lineman and the Backfield

CHAPTER 4          Learning to Avoid Incomplete Passes - Communication

CHAPTER 5          Learning to Key - Women Feel Their Words, Hear Them

CHAPTER 6          Hitch and Go Doesn't Work in Relationships - Do What
                                You Say: Say What You Do

CHAPTER 7          The Huddle - Emotional Word Pictures

CHAPTER 8          Getting Benched - the Difference Between a Man's "No"
                                and a Woman's "No"

CHAPTER 9          Making the First Round Draft Pick with Romance

CHAPTER 10        Learning the Playbook - the Memory Game

CHAPTER 11        The Team - True Intimacy, the Road to Becoming Best Friends

CHAPTER 12        Recruiting and Stats - Things Women Need You to Know

CHAPTER 13        The Chemistry of Love - Scientific Facts

CHAPTER 14        Illegal Procedures - Women in the Wallet, Women in the Frames

CHAPTER 15        Adding Value to your Team - Spending and Investing Time

CHAPTER 16        Looking for a Draw Play - Non-Verbal Communication

CHAPTER 17        The Last Pass - How and Where To Meet The Woman or Man In Your Life if You Don't Currently Have Anyone to Score a Touchdown With

CHAPTER 18        Getting into the End Zone Consistently - the Final Word

CHAPTER 19        Relationship Advice from Legendary NFL Clutch-Kickers

CHAPTER 20        Football Definitions, Rules, Penalties and Fun Football Stats

CHAPTER 21        Epilogue

No. 1 Amazon and Barnes and Noble Best Selling Author Jaci Rae

Winning Points With The Woman In Your Life One Touchdown at a Time (Simon and Schuster)

China Doll

by Best Selling Author, Jaci Rae


Jaci Rae

Gazing intently out to a mysterious world.  Waiting for an enchantment to being.  She is my China Doll.  Her beauty is fragile, never to be touched by human hands. Never to be seen by human eyes.  She is delicate my China Doll.

Her finely chiseled features and delicate golden eyes, shield themselves from others.  She does not want to be shattered, my China Doll.

The shell she is in at any given moment may break, leaving her heart open and frightened.  What will she do then, my China Doll.

her soul is ready to take flight, but her wings have only soared once and then they were broken.  Who will heal my little China Doll?

She loves, she lives, and her heart is like fine rice paper, ready to crumble at the slightest touch.  Her strength comes from pain, my China Doll.

She remains hidden under sheathes of satin, waiting for a velvet touch to set her free.  She is ready to feel again, my little China Doll.

Jaci Rae Copyright

Jaci Rae's grit and determination brought her from a poor childhood to a successful singer and author who tours around the world. She is the recipient of the "Female Vocalist of the Year" award at the Golden Music Awards in Nashville, TN as well as a Barnes and Noble and Amazon No. 1 Best seller. 

Jaci is the dating coach for igniteromance.com, on the dating team of Savvymiss.com, the relationship expert for lovingyou.com and is a relationship advisor for loveisgreat.com and singlescafe.net.

She is the author of The Indie Guide to Music, Marketing and Money, as well as Winning Points With The Woman In Your Life One Touchdown At A Time, Shop for a Day with Jaci Rae and Collista's Search for the True Meaning of Christmas.

Jaci spends her spare time working on her music, writing and hanging out with family and friends.

Jaci is the dating coach for igniteromance.com, on the dating team of Savvymiss.com, the relationship expert for lovingyou.com and is a relationship advisor for loveisgreat.com and singlescafe.net.

For more information, go to http://www.jacirae.com, http://www.christmaswithlove.com or http://www.winningromance.com

About.com Dating Guide lists Jaci's book, Winning Points With The Woman In Your Life One Touchdown At A Time in the top six of all time dating / relationship books.  




I long for the day when we are no longer defined by race, color, or class, but by a world that is undivided and unified by compassion, understanding and love.” Jaci Rae

 Jaci Rae's new No. 1 Best Selling book, “Winning Points With The Woman In Your Life One Touchdown At A Time”, is brilliantly executed and creatively explicit in targeting the most difficult audience on the planet, the American male. “Winning Points” is not really the Freudian kind of advice you’d expect, but you are in for a treat.

Kick back, relax, put your feet up and make sure the lighting is just right. You’re about to read one of the most insightful books on female behavior ever produced. A definite must read of this millennium!

Jaci Rae is a star quarterback in her portrayal of the battle of the ultimate 'super-goal’ for men and women and just what it takes to get a ‘touchdown’ for both sides.

Where does she get all that dynamite expertise? Her own life experience, of course. So, who is Jaci Rae? And just where does she get the nerve to lay out the ‘playing field?’

Jaci Rae is an extra-ordinary woman who never gives up and just won’t accept the status quo. She began her amazing public life at the Jerry Lewis Walk-a-thon when she was just five years old. Bravely walking into the crowd of the JLW, Jaci walked that year not knowing she needed a sponsor, only knowing she had to walk for those who couldn’t. At 6 she came back with the needed sponsors and a burning desire to help. Jaci won the award for walking the farthest as well having the most sponsors in the youth category.

Action and re-action amused and excited her. At 8 years old she began writing poetry to express her curiosity of life. Her curiosity continued and by the age of 9 Jaci had read many books on the study of communication, relationships and the human mind, taking note of the minute details of behavior. By the time she was 15 Jaci had read countless books on communication and psychology in addition to taking a course in psychology. She privately studied forensic science including FBI profiling and the criminal mind. Jaci entered college with a minor in psychology and a major in music.

As a result of working as a youth counselor in her early years, and her observations and research in psychology, Jaci understood the need to communicate effectively in order to avoid “Getting Benched” (chapter 8). With the divorce rate at almost 50% Jaci just wasn’t satisfied to learn from her professor that psychologists, counselors and psychiatrists had an even higher divorce rate. Something was wrong. Jaci made the decision to write about these types of problems while she worked mostly on developing her musical talents. Being a psychologist wasn’t appealing anymore. However, getting past the behavioral obstacles still was a major curiosity to her.

Sidebar: (In 1992 the divorce rate was 48%. However, the last-reported U.S. divorce rate for a calendar year is 40% per capita per year, the provisional estimate for the year 2002 from the National Center for Health Statistics. The highest divorce rate continues to remain among psychologists and psychiatrists.)

Jaci’s writing career began when she was asked to write a distribution article for DiscMakers magazine. Subsequently, due to her extraordinary musical successes and writing prowess she was asked to write many articles that in turn led to writing her first book. She has written ten books, most designed to help people communicate more effectively. The rest are designed to help people succeed in understanding music, understanding life, and understanding self. She has been on numerous advice panels, and has routinely been a guest writer for various magazines. Her first book, “The Indie Guide to Music, Marketing and Money" became itself a success and a reason to continue writing. With one book after another under her belt, she finally “tackled” the difficult subject of relationships.

Jaci’s newly released No. 1 Best Selling book, “Winning Points With The Woman In Your Life One Touchdown At A Time – How To Score For Men and Women” addresses relational problems for men. The book is designed to help men and women appreciate the loved one in their lives while enjoying every bit of the game. She creatively uses a language that most men can understand and enjoy. Her premise is that “once your mate is satisfied, they'll spend a lifetime wanting to satisfy you.”

Jaci’s other achievements include several hit singles and award winning discs, with an emphasis on Country.  She has won several awards such as “Female Vocalist of the Year” with Golden Music Award in Nashville, Tennessee, the Levi Strauss award to name a few as well as mastering several musical instruments and professional photography.

Her upcoming release of, “Cant Push a River” reflects the attitude of her continual “Molly Brown” outlook. Jaci Rae is, after all, an extra-ordinary woman.

To find out more about Jaci Rae – “The Rae of Hope, ” go to:  http://www.winningpoints.net

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Jaci Rae
Can't Push A River


Song Title Time (Song Credits)

Goin' Till I'm Gone 3:07 Sample (Mark Irwin, James Nihan)
A Broken Wing 3:33 Sample (James House, Same Hogin, Phil Barnet)
Don't Think Twice 2:40 Sample (Bob Dylan)
Where I Used To Have A Heart 3:55 Sample (Craig Bickhardt)
Lost In Texas 3:48 Sample (Nelda Sisk/Deborah Berwyn/Gregory Delang)

Crazy 3:22 Sample (Willie Nelson)
Can't Push A River 3:29 Sample (Stephanie C. Brown/Lynn Langham)
Something's Going To Happen 3:28 Sample (Nelda Sisk/George Sisk )
Under The Rainbow 3:11 Sample (Ray Methvin, James Nihan)
Boots On Her Feet 2:47 Sample (Unknown)
Completely 3:42 Sample (Jennifer Day, Liz Hengber, Tommy Lee James)
When The Time Comes 4:29 Sample (David Kavich)

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